Let me take a moment and state the obvious: being broke totally sucks. And when I say broke, I mean you have nothing in the bank, you just spent your last few bucks on providing food for your family, and you’re now wondering where the next meal will come from. We haven’t even started talking about paying the other stuff like the rent, power, water, and the phone bill.
That’s financial broke. Ever been there? I am going through that right now, and again let me state the obvious: it sucks.
There is another type of broke when you are broke. There’s broke in your heart and your spirit. When you struggle to have enough cash to meet your day to day needs, have you ever felt like something inside you wilts and crumples like a flimsy piece of paper?
If you’ve been struggling financially for a while, you are also likely struggling internally as well. To recover, and you will, it’s not enough to just hunt for more work. You also need to pay attention to building up your heart again too.
Your heart is where your life comes from. King Solomon wrote: “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” (Proverbs 4:23) To begin a financial recovery, which is what you’re striving for, you first need to start a heart recovery.
A few ideas to help you:
1. “Remember that failure is an experience, not a person.” Zig Ziglar. If you’re a guy and you’re struggling to provide for your family, this is vital: YOU aren’t a failure. I’m a guy struggling to provide for my family right now. I struggle MORE with not painting myself as being a terrible father or husband. If you are a guy, maybe you identify with this: we tend to own that feeling of BEING a failure, don’t we? I don’t make enough money, my client didn’t pay on time = I’m a terrible provider. If that’s your mindset, change it today! How? Replace it with truth. Immediately reject and eject that ‘I’m a failure’ thought line. Change it to: “I’m a dedicated, hard working husband and father. I’m doing everything I can to take care of my family, and I’m trusting God to help me with the stuff I can’t do.” My wife is awesome at reminding me of this truth.
2. You are what you think about. Garbage in, garbage out. You own the thought DJ in your mind, are you giving it the right stuff to play? Great leaders and entrepreneurs are READERS. They fill their minds with new and valuable information through who they connect with, and what they read. How are you doing that today? Your current struggle can freeze you where you are if you let it. Instead, what if you looked for and connected with great thinkers, and great information through reading?
3. Share your brokenness. If you have a wife or husband, a close friend you can trust, or even just a journal – start sharing how you feel. Dump it out in all it’s ugliness. It’s not always easy, but when I share my dark feelings with my wife, guess what I always get? A hug and encouragement. No, a hug doesn’t solve the problem, but it sure helps to not feel alone.
Nobody to share with? Journal your feelings. Write them down, every last one of them. When you write what you feel, you help yourself process what you’re going through, and that’s huge. And if you have nobody to share with, how about if you make a point of finding someone this week or this month? God himself said that it wasn’t good for man to be by himself. (Genesis 2:18) What can you do today to stop being alone with your struggle?